To write the title of this post, I have paraphrased a sentence in an article from PopSci: "[A]ll education is brain-based. It is impossible to learn without a brain." That statement is true for education—and my version fits for mediation.
The article, one I highly recommend to you, is titled "Everything You've Been Told About How You Learn Is A Lie" and it describes three myths about learning: left brain-right brain, learning styles, and a catch-all the author labels "__ Will Make You Smarter." Perhaps a bit of the writer's frustration comes through in the article, or perhaps I am only imagining that because my frustration grows with the use of some "brain science" I see being applied to mediation. But you have heard me talk about that frustration many times before here or perhaps in one of my programs.
To introduce another source of my frustration (somewhat related to the one mentioned above), here's another paraphrase for you, from a very good book I am reading: "Under no circumstances should [conflict resolution] be reduced to a technique." The actual sentence, from A Guide to Third Generation Coaching, reads "coaching" instead of "conflict resolution."
The technique-driven approach is common in mediation. Yes, we have learned from neuroscience a few, and let me stress few, techniques that may be helpful sometimes, with some people, in some situations. (Click to read more about the Maxim of SIN: Situational, Individual, Now.) That's part of the reason I attend conferences such as the annual meeting of Association for Psychological Science: to learn new research and see when it might be helpful in conflict resolution—and, more frequently, when it probably won't. For example, I still have posts pending from the May APS conference on such topics as:
- the potential pathology of the group approach to problems
- the malleability of personality traits
- the explosion of emotion regulation research and how much we still don't know
In addition to criticism of a technique focus, much of the rest of the book A Guide to Third Generation Coaching also can apply to the process of dispute resolution.
For example, the book's author Reinhard Stelter presents three stages or generations of coaching and posits we are now in the third stage.
The first generation he describes as having "a problem and goal perspective": Helping "the coachee address his or her