[T]hree underlying problems will remain – and it is these problems, and not the adjustments that might be needed in alimony or custody statutes, that make divorce a disaster for many families.
First, the cost of litigating alimony and child custody issues imposes an unmanageable burden on many couples and their children.
Second, choosing to litigate these issues means relinquishing control to courts over what we hold most dear – our children and our financial survival.
Third, divorce litigation almost invariably ratchets up antagonisms to a point where children get caught in the crossfire.
Electing to use more effective tools for dispute resolution, such as mediation and the collaborative law process – a decision that any divorcing couple can make – addresses all three of these problems and can lead to better outcomes in both alimony and custody conflicts. Here’s why.
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